Tuesday, October 30, 2007

Enough About Parker

I know, I seem to have a lot more to say about Parker, but he's just at that crazy stage, you know? I got home from looking at a couple houses tonight and walk in to Parker screaming his guts out. He's quite the screamer lately. Anyway, this is what he looked like!

He hates anything that is distributed by "Gerber." If it comes from my plate, it must be good, right? He hates baby spoons, baby food, bibs, car seats, pretty much anything that labels him as a baby. He's done with it!

Sunday, October 28, 2007

Weekend Fun

On Saturday early evening we went to a local farm for some hot cider, donuts, a hayride and Charlie Brown shown on a big truck outside. Jody took a lot more pictures than I did, so you'll have to check out her blog for all the festive events. I just got a picture of us (Amber, me, Parker, Allee and Jody) and Steve, Mandy and their family. It was a lot of fun and perfect weather too.

Mandy, Will the monkey, Steve & Spencer

This is Amber and her cousins Spencer and Will having a little fun in my parents backyard. We took a nice Sunday walk today, and Amber decided she wanted to walk rather than be in the stroller. She was dragging her feet wading her way through the gutter where there were huge piles of leaves. She enjoyed kicking them watching them fall and stick to her sweater. It gave me a flash back to being a child. I remember doing the same thing. Don't you all remember kicking leaves as you'd walk through piles, throwing leaves, making big piles of them and jumping in? What a memory. I remember one year bagging up my neighbor's leaves and bringing them to my house so me and my sister could spend the afternoon jumping in big huge piles of leaves. Fall is so great, isn't it?! Oh to be a child again!

Friday, October 26, 2007

Crazy Monkey

My little Parker is nuts. He loves to climb EVERYTHING! I still treat him like such a baby. In my mind he isn't capable of doing anything yet (like crawling, talking, hand gestures, etc.). He turns one though on December 8th, so it's right around the corner! I need to face it that he's not my little baby anymore. Time for another one I guess. Weird to think that Amber was his EXACT age when I found out I was pregnant. It truthfully hasn't been as bad as I anticipated having two so close together. If Matt allowed 4 kids in the Deming clan I'd hold off a few years and have two close together again. Not to alarm anyone, a baby isn't in the plans any time soon. I think three under four would be a little hectic. I'd for sure be in the loony bin. So I took this picture because it's a stage Amber was in that I remember clear as day. My sister-in-law Julie has a chair similar to this one. We were visiting them (they live in Arizona) when Amber was 11 months old. Amber loved to climb in and out of it all day long. She'd laugh hysterically as she crashed to the floor (she didn't quite know how to get down without falling flat on her face). I bought this chair for Amber about a year ago. Parker discovered this past week how to climb in and out of it just like Amber. He too crashes flat on his face but just laughs. His facial expression shows he is so proud and it's like he knows he is such a big boy. When he sits in it he claps his hands or pats the side of the arm rest like "good job, I did it." It's so cute.

Tuesday, October 23, 2007

I Love Fall!

Are you all wondering when I'm going to update my blog again?! I'm sure the 5 people that read my blog have been waiting anxiously! Time has flown by and I'm way behind in my posts, so this may be a lengthy one. Life is so crazy, isn't it?! I hate working so much, I wish I could just be a cute little mom that does crafts and plays all day long with the kids. I feel so stressed out lately and I'm not even working much to be honest. I really wonder if Joyce's death is hitting me harder than I thought and I'm blaming my stress and bad mood's on other stuff. Anyway, I feel sorry for Matt and my kids because I feel like such a grouch lately.

On a lighter note though, fall is great, isn't it?! I've seen so many of your blogs with beautiful fall pictures, and I love it! Matt and I took a drive over conference and took some pictures (actually, Matt gets all the credit, he is quite the photographer). So to show my fall spirit I thought I'd have at least one fall photo. There is a tree in our neighborhood that was brilliant yellow-more like golden-and each time we passed Amber would say "look at the pretty tree mom!" It was so fun to drive by it each day. It's amazing how fast the leaves fell though, and now it's just a bare old tree. I wish the colors on the trees stayed much longer.

Matt and I went on the deer hunt this past weekend...with the kids. If you think we're nuts to take the kids, you are right! It was FREEZING! I can't even begin to tell you how cold it was. It was a lot of fun though, and I'm totally glad we went. Quality time together is a must, so it really was fun, just COLD! The temperature Sunday morning was 17. We had Matt's parents tent trailer though, and it had a heater so inside the tent trailer was a nice 50 degrees.

On the way down, Amber fell asleep in the car while eating her bagel. Half was in her mouth, and the other half in her hand.

It was quite the drive to were the "big bucks" are, so it took us most the day Friday to get there. Once we arrived we set up camp and hung out, collected sticks, rocks, and tried to find deer.

On Saturday morning Matt woke up early to go try and track down a big buck. We stayed in camp and collected more sticks and rocks (at this point it wasn't too cold, so we played out side quite a bit). Matt insisted we all wear orange. I guess you're supposed to so no hunters mistake you for a deer and shoot you down. I'll spare you the pictures of me in orange. I was quite the sight.

Cute Libby was a good sport to wear an orange jacket. I know she hated it, but we didn't want to take any chances! It was a great weekend though, and unfortunately Matt didn't get a deer. He was holding out for a big one. He saw a few but none worthy of a spot on our wall next to the antelope (yes, we have an antelope hanging in our house...huge debate between us...it doesn't really go with our "decor" but oh well, it's a nice looking animal, I'll give him that). On our way home, Matt said "I'm so depressed. I have 363 more days I'll have to spend watching hunting DVDs to get ready for next year." I have to admit I have a new appreciation for hunting after this weekend. It was kind of exciting trying to track down a deer. Every time I heard a shot I'd say to Amber "maybe that was dad" and she'd get all excited too. It was fun, but believe me you'll NEVER see me with a rifle in hand. I'd pass out if I shot an animal. The first deer Matt killed I cried when he told me the story. Just so you all know, we do eat the meat (if that gives anyone out there comfort).

Tuesday, October 9, 2007

Life Goes On

What a crazy few weeks! I can't express enough how thankful I am for such great friends and family. It's amazing the amount of support and love that comes flying in at times like this. I loved listening to conference this weekend and felt so uplifted by many of the talks. I feel like I've been on this spiritual high for the past week and a half. It's sad to be back to the "real world" again. Most of the family has flown out now. The main reason I even made it through these days is all the time I had with family. It was the most therapeutic experience. We had so many moments of just pure joy and laughter. We enjoyed the time reminiscing about our childhood, and our different experiences with Joyce. She truly is an amazing person. I find comfort in knowing she isn't suffering any more. Our family talked about the fact that she has her hair back, and her rosy cheeks!

One experience I found through all this is how quickly you leave the "world" behind. We hear so often "you can't take anything with you" so the things of the world shouldn't matter. That became so clear to me. After Joyce died, suddenly her apartment was filled with "stuff." Her makeup, clothes, decorations, shoes, socks, books, jewelry, nail polish, shampoo, lotions, etc. One minute they were hers, the next is was just "stuff." The greatest realization of all, is what Joyce not only took with her, but what she has left. She has the strongest Testimony of Jesus Christ & Joseph Smith. She also has so much compassion towards others, and loved to serve others. She has the sweetest personality and smile, and dedicated her life to family & the church. In her short 25 years, she spent it serving others.

I can't believe she is really gone. I look at pictures and we watched some home movies the other day. It was very odd, and just didn't seem real that she was gone. I feel like I can still call her when ever I want. I got an email yesterday from "Joyce Riding." Stu had sent us an email from her email account. It made my heart skip when I saw it in my inbox.

Did any of you hear the conference talk about cancer being the disease of love or something to that effect? It really is so true. For the past two years we have been able to travel back and forth to Texas, take tons of family photos, capture several events on film, spend hours on the phone or sending emails back and forth throughout this whole experience. We shared so many wonderful experiences together and didn't take one moment for granted. It really is incredible to reflect back and see how blessed we truly were/are. I'm so grateful we had these past two years together to grow closer as a family. Cancer sucks, but there are positive events that come from it!

Her funeral was amazing. It was the most incredible funeral I've ever been to. It really was a celebration of her life. Everyone I have talked to that attended (myself included) left wanting to be a better person. She truly inspired so many people. Her husband spoke and did such a great job. I can't believe the strength he has! She was so lucky to have him. They were only married 4 years! The things they had to go through in those 4 years would have put most couples over the edge (medical school, cancer, remission, pregnant, cancer returns, chemo while pregnant, deliver baby, continue chemo treatments, deathly ill, graduate medical school, start residency, chemo continues but isn't working, Joyce continues to get worse...).

Well, anyway, thank you again for all your kind comments, calls, support, etc. I have really been uplifted through it all. Don't take one moment for granted with your loved ones. You never know what the future holds (cheesey, but it's true).

Wednesday, October 3, 2007

Joyce's Obituary

Joyce Morgan Riding
Sept 28, 2007

Joyce Morgan Riding, 25, was surrounded by her family as she peacefully passed away September 28, 2007 at her home in Irving, TX after courageously battling cancer for two years. Joyce was born on November 5, 1981 in Salt Lake City, Utah to Vernon and Carol Morgan. She married her incredibly devoted husband, Stuart Lee Riding, on December 27, 2003 in the Mt. Timpanogos Temple.

Joyce grew up in Holladay, Utah and graduated from Skyline High School in 2000; then went on to receive her Associate’s Degree from Ricks College in Rexburg, Idaho. She enjoyed a semester studying in Nauvoo where she developed a love for early Church history and the Prophet Joseph Smith. Joyce always had a beautiful smile on her face and would light up every room she entered. Her life was one of service, and even in her last moments she was more concerned about the comfort of others than her own. Joyce selflessly supported her husband through medical school, while he selflessly supported Joyce through cancer treatments. Both were thrilled by the miraculous birth of their healthy son, Jacob.

Joyce is survived by her loving husband and 9-month old son; parents; four brothers, Stephen (Amanda), Roger (Susan), Brian (Julie), Eric (Katie), and three sisters, Carrie Knapp (Jason), Trisha Deming (Matthew), and fraternal twin and best friend Joan Taylor (Chad); parents-in-law, Stanley and Karen Riding; 3 brothers-in-law, Brian (Deanna), Wayne (Terry), and Craig; and 3 sisters-in-law Teresa Carter (Paul), Sheryl Finch (James), and Linda Birrell (Jeffrey); and 57 nieces and nephews.

Joyce’s wish was to be surrounded by her family to say goodbye, and amazingly that wish came true. Joyce had a strong relationship with her Savior and she put her complete faith and trust in the Lord. She exemplified His counsel of giving ourselves completely to His will. Joyce will be missed tremendously, but we are comforted in knowing that she is truly one of the pure in heart.
In lieu of flowers a fund has been set up on behalf of Joyce, Stuart, and Jake Riding. Please send contributions in the name of Joyce Riding to: Zions Bank, 80 East 100 North, Payson Utah, 84651.
Viewing: Thursday, October 4, 2007
6:00-8:00 pm
Walker Mortuary
587 S 100 W
Payson, UT 84651
(801) 465-3846

Funeral: Friday, October 5, 2007
10:00 am viewing prior to services
11:00 am funeral services
Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints
780 W 400 S
Payson, UT 84651

Tuesday, October 2, 2007

Here is my cute sister & her husband Stu before she started chemo. I'll post her obituary tomorrow or tonight if I can get it then. I have a lot of people asking tons of questions, so I'll also update you all about where the funeral will be, how to get there, why it is where it is...etc. Thank you so much for all your thoughts, calls, emails, posts, prayers, etc. I really am so grateful for such great friends. Love you all!